Issue Date: May 27, 2007
Love at the office: Think twice
Who doesn't want romance to flourish between star-crossed co-workers Pam and Jim of "The Office" or Betty and Henry on "Ugly Betty?"
Don't kid yourself: You can't keep workplace romance a secret.
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"But turn off the TV," and we're less enamored of the idea of dating a desk mate. A recent poll by Match.com shows that an astounding 84% of 14,000 singles believe it's a "disaster waiting to happen!"
Is it? Having dated intra-office myself, and hearing many successful stories about others who have, I believe it can be OK -- if you're willing to abide by some pursuit protocol:
Consider the connection. She's the person you report directly to. He's in the cubicle right next to you. Generally, the person is directly connected to how you do your job. Yes to any of the above? Just say no. If the person is a regular part of your day or pay, don't play. Breakups usually bring out the worst in people.
Take your time. Get to know your work crush on a friendship level. The more you chat casually, the more you'll learn about past relationships and whether after-office activity is worth it.
Check company policy. Many companies forbid "fraternization." And if you think you can keep the relationship a secret, then you're deluding yourself.
Assess your attitude. Be honest. Are you a "bad breaker" -- someone who refuses to be dumped (phone stalking, apartment drive-bys, nasty letters) or just generally ends relationships badly? If so, step away from your co-workers. Your personal life may need some help, and on the job, you want to be known for your excellent work, not for being "that crazy person."
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