Issue Date: January 13, 2008
Godparent concern
Q: What does it really mean when someone asks you to be a godparent? I said yes to my brother's request, but being a single guy, I'm a little worried about the idea that I could end up with his child if something happens to my brother and his wife.
M.T., Calif.
Know what you're saying "yes" to before signing onto someone's request.
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A: Relax. You're not legally required or morally bound to being the guardian.
When it comes to naming someone a godparent, different religions have their own traditions. But the sentiment behind the request is universal: It's an honor to be asked, and it means your brother thinks you can be a positive part of his child's life. "They're asking you to be a wonderful example of the community and faith that they believe in," says Bartholomew Daly, a pastor of Our Lady of Peace Church in Manhattan. "Simply put, you're a good role model."
Child custody is not an issue that parents take lightly. If they want you to become their kid's guardian, they probably would have discussed it with you.
Still, it wouldn't hurt to bring up the topic and find out exactly what they do expect from you. If it's a responsibility you are not prepared for, voice your concerns so they know where you stand and, if necessary, they can make other plans.
For future reference, saying, "Let me get right back to you" makes for less trouble and backtracking than a "just-say-yes" reply.
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