Issue Date: February 8, 2009
Go green for love?
I finally found a guy who loves me completely. The problem? He's very "green": crystal underarm stuff, composting, the works. I can't relate at all, but I try. Should I just go all out and immerse myself in his good causes for the sake of our relationship?
R.V., Oklahoma
If, by immersion, you mean totally losing yourself in him, taking on his hobbies and giving up everything that's yours to blend in with his life, I say, no way.
Disappearing into a guy does not stop him from doing his own disappearing act, especially when he realizes (and he will) that you're faking your enthusiasm for compost worms and crystal deodorants. Also, don't worry so much: He didn't fall in love with the queen of green. He fell for who you really are.
But staying true to you doesn't mean you shouldn't take an interest in and learn more about his positive lifestyle. You'd be surprised, says Kate Harrison, author of "The Green Bride Guide," by some of the simple ways that you can go green and make your relationship red-hot. Try going on a date to a farmer's market -- buy locally and cook a romantic meal together. Surprise him with a monogrammed cloth grocery bag to help replace plastic.
Green, it seems, comes in many shades. Harrison says, "It's not a competition. It's about finding a way to share an interest, respect each other's views and approach it from your unique point of view."
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