Issue Date: October 4, 2009
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ALLYSON DICKMAN |
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End homework battles
Hating homework is usually the kid's job. But when keeping a child's focus on his books rather than the TV becomes a nightly struggle, parents can wind up hating homework, too.
"Most parents, especially those who work outside the home, dread all the homework and pressure that the school year brings," says Jamie Woolf, author of "Mom-in-Chief: How Wisdom From the Workplace Can Save Your Family From Chaos." She recommends using the following strategies to end homework battles.
Set big-picture goals together. Ask your child to write out homework goals, such as, "I will not turn on the TV until my homework is finished."
Assess your child. Decide whether she's struggling because she lacks motivation or just doesn't understand the work. Then decide the best approach to help her do better.
Make room. Encourage neatness and organization by giving your child a study area that he can use routinely and maintain on his own.
Teach accountability. Don't blame the teacher for what your child doesn't understand. Instead, teach your child how to get answers. For example, tell him to ask the teacher to explain any unclear assignments.
Don't give up if bad habits return. Refocus on those big-picture goals you set together, and remind your child to stick with his commitments.
Connect success with effort. Remind your child that effort and perseverance -- not just innate talent -- will lead to success.
-- Allyson Dickman
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