A Note to caregivers from Dr. Oz

Let me offer some battle-tested advice from caregivers who have been on my show.
If you're caring for elderly parents, the first step is to realize that ensuring your own health is the best way to maintain theirs. If you're sick or unable to function, you won't be able to look after the people who depend on you for support. After all, the heart pumps blood to itself before it dutifully shares it with the rest of the body.

Second, you need to realize that just as you give love to so many people, you also must be willing to accept that same love. That means asking for help or time off on occasion and giving others the opportunity to take care of you. It will make them feel better and give you a break. Start by making a list of three chores, then delegating one of them.

Third, there are some areas where your relatives may not need you as much as you think. Research has shown that by allowing the elderly to do things for themselves in some circumstances, such as walking up stairs, you will actually help them feel healthier and live longer.

Finally, take advantage of the many resources available to caregivers. Check out hhs.gov/aging for information, and see if your state or locality has a department of aging for services closer to home.