How to get that raise

How can you get paid what you deserve?

The answer, maintains TV's Mika Brzezinski, can be different for women than it is for men. We asked the co-anchor of MSNBC's news and politics talk show Morning Joe and author of a new book directed at women, Knowing Your Value, due out May 3, her top tips for women on how to land that raise — and men may find them helpful, too:

Be calm. Don't “yell, threaten, pound on the table,” Brzezinski emphasizes. “Rather, be authentic and use every communication ability you possess,” minus the histrionics.

Silence the drama. “No one needs to hear the drama of your life,” Brzezinski says.

Stick to your guns. “If you tell your boss you need a raise or you're going to walk, you sure as hell had better be prepared to walk!” Brzezinski says.

Don't apologize. Women have a “sickness” of thinking they'll to do better if they ingratiate themselves. “Starting with ‘I know this is a bad time but,' or ‘By the way ' is another way of saying, ‘Don't give me what I'm about to ask for.' You're not sorry — you mean to say, ‘I'm not getting paid my value.' ”