Pick the perfect hostess gift

When it comes to gracious gifts, think simple indulgences, says Anna Post, a co-author of the 18th edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette. Find just the right way to say thank you — and ensure a second invitation —here.

How much time do you have?

If you're planning ahead this year, first consider how well you know the hostess.

For a good friend or someone you know well, think about the occasion. Here are some suggestions.

An overnight stay. Staying awhile? Make it more substantial. Good bets: board games or puzzles; a framed photo of you together; table linens or guest towels. (Shown: $10 each; henhouselinens.com)

Cocktails. You may not be able to hand it over, so include a note. Good bets: artisan liquor or bitters; breakfast breads; cookie cutters with a recipe. (Shown: $7 each; 1-800-961-3337)

Dinner. Don’t distract your host with items like flowers in need of a vase. Good bets: an orchid or plant; a desk calendar; festive glassware or platters. (Shown: $5.50 each, $33 for set of 6; fishseddy.com)

If you don't know the hostess well or don't have much time, it's important to be prepared.

Be prepared. Keep a stash of gifts to grab and go. Good bets: chocolates or jams; a stack of pretty paper cocktail napkins tied with ribbon; luxe notecards. (Shown: $12 for pack of 10; glalo.com)

Time? Are you kidding?

Skip it. Seriously. “A hostess gift is a lovely gesture, but it’s not an obligation,” Post reassures. “Be thoughtful when you can, but it’s not the end of the world when you can’t.”