These tips also keep the fire burning with your spouse. / Digital Vision / Getty Images
Having been called a real-life version of Will Smithís matchmaking character in the movie Hitch, Paul Carrick Brunson has helped a variety of clients find love in this modern day. His new book, Itís Complicated (But It Doesnít Have to Be): A Modern Guide to Finding and Keeping Love, advises people on simplifying their love lives.
Meant for more. Brunson says four things can signal relationship potential. First, you must be attracted physically.
Second, notice the ďnon-starters.Ē ďNon-starters are not your preferences but your needs,Ē he says. If youíre asthmatic, a smoker wouldnít be a good choice.
Third, recognize your partnerís personality type. If you can have a free flow of communication, then you know you have chemistry.
Finally, itís about sharing the same values. ďValues play out over time. Thatís why itís important to date.Ē
Using the Web. Brunson is all for online dating sites. ďOver 50% of US singles have said they use websites,Ē says Brunson. The problem: Singles donít effectively use sites, their profiles are poorly made, and ďthatís 90% of the decision. A great profile is going to yield you interest while youíre sleeping.Ē
Holding on. Already married? Brunson says your work has just begun. ďWhen you get married, you have to work harder ó but you enjoy the work. If you want to keep the fire burning, you have to tend to the coals. If you get comfortable, thatís when things can go wrong.Ē